As of late, we’re constantly reminded that it’s okay to say “no.” We’re encouraged to prioritize self-care and cut out what doesn’t “serve us,” even if that sometimes includes people.
Outside of your personal bubble, on the other end of that “no,” someone is wondering why you turned them down. Since people still love to peer pressure you after saying no, I thought I would write a blog post with potential reasons people (read: I) say no to plans. From now on, when I decline plans (which is really hard for me), I will attach this blog post for further explanation. That’s how digital communication works, right?
Sorry, I can’t because…
I have to be up early.
I can’t afford it.
I had a really stressful day and as an introvert, I need alone time.
I may be leaving work, but I still have my side hustle to work on.
I don’t want to drink.
I have another commitment at X o’ clock and I’m already always running late as it is.
I am really freaking stressed.
That does not sound like fun to me at all. (e.g. bars without a dance floor, wine and paint night, reality TV or really any TV, elitist activities that I can’t mock, house parties, chain restaurants, non-stationary cycling, breweries or wineries, places that don’t serve hard liquor, or really anything involving alcohol where I can’t dance)
Plans with you are always extended, so a one-hour coffee date becomes a five-hour adventure and I don’t have time for that today. Or ever, tbh.
The rest of the people involved drive me bonkers.
We’ve grown apart and only ever talk about our memories from years ago. I have TimeHop for that (jk I don’t have TimeHop but it sounded good).
I don’t feel like socializing.
Sorry, I ain’t got no money, I’m not trying to be funny. Seriously, I HAVE NO MONEY.
My alarm to wake up is 5AM, but I also have an alarm set for 8:30PM to get ready for bed. I’m no longer 20 — sleep is non-negotiable.
I don’t feel like it.
Sorry, not sorry. Thanks for understanding! xo
(but really, at least I’ll always tell you “no” instead of ditching or ghosting or whatever lame-o excuse most people give!)
++ Mary K