In February 2018, I self-published my first book, Run My World: How I Empowered Myself Through Fitness. It would not have been possible without the support of incredible friends, mentors, and role models, and now I’m highlighting some of the amazing people in my life that run their worlds.
Empowered (wo)men empower (wo)men, so now I’m raising a glass to some of the best people I know. I’m so grateful to share their stories — I promise you’ll be even more inspired to run your world!
Mary’s note: I first met Christina through dancing at Healthy Hood, and I was blown away by her “She Is” mantra we recited at the beginning of classes. I still get chills every time we do this! Even though I’m over a foot taller than her (lol), she feels like my big sister. She calls me out on my bullshit and holds me accountable, but always with utmost love and encouragement. She is one of the most devoted people I’ve ever met, and her dedication to being her most authentic self every single day inspires me beyond belief!
Name: Christina (Rodriguez) Wilborn
Hometown + Current City: Chicago
Occupation/Business: Stay-at-home-mom, Dance instructor, Fitness Coach
In one sentence, what does it mean for you to run your world?
Balancing all my titles and seasons with grace and humility – it ain’t easy being a boss!
Acknowledge Your Past: What’s one lesson from your past that has really influenced your life?
The comparison game is a quick route to self-pity and distraction.
Find Your Fit: What are your favorite ways to move and exercise? How did you find your fit?
Chair Dance, Lap Dance, Heel Dance, Body Rolls, and Hip Rolls! I seriously just like feeling like a sexy ass, strong woman.
Fuel Your Body:
What is your favorite meal to fuel your body? A play on shrimp and grits, but instead of grits I use cauliflower rice! My entire family fell in love with it.
What is your favorite meal to fuel your soul? I’m a sweets person. My soul loves sweet potato pie, Oreos and milk, or a blueberry muffin with sugar on top.
Have you had any struggles with your relationship with food? I struggled with properly fueling my body. In my late teens/early 20s, I ate on the go all the time. I worked four different jobs — three of them being an instructor at three different studios. I ate gas station food and fast food ALL THE TIME. Because I was relatively in shape, I thought I was okay. But after having my first child, realized the damage I had done because of how iron deficient we both were.
How do you try to fight/challenge the cultural standards around dieting and disordered eating? I think I still fight this. I definitely have found I prefer eating at home and cooking my meals, but my social life has really taken a hit because of that. People love to grab a coffee, go out to sushi, or get brunch. And I’m like “yeah guys, I can make waffles at home.” I started trying to post my meals/recipes to show people that you can make pretty ass plates at home, or you can cook in restaurant time and not feel like every recipe takes hours.
Practice Mindfulness: Do you meditate? If so, how? How do you try to be mindful on a daily/weekly/monthly basis?
I don’t specifically meditate, but I do try to set time aside to be thankful. I try to wake up every morning and night just being thankful. I try to catch myself while I’m aimlessly scrolling so I can put the phone down and breathe. I try to do breathing techniques to slow me down — I tend to keep moving because my kids keep me on my toes! Sometimes, I just need to sit. Not specifically meditate, but breathe and simply be.
HIIT vs. LISS: Tell us about your work-life “balance.” How do you manage planning/productivity while being a straight-up hustler?
I don’t! Hahaha! I do, I do. I just don’t know that I do it well. I have a weird view of life right now. My season is very, very new to me. I’ve had a job since I was 15 — back when your parents could sign a “worker’s permit” to allow you to start working before 18, which is basically unheard of now. 13 years later, my husband and I decided I would stay home because frankly, I needed to figure out what the hell I was working toward. I was taught to work for a dollar, and I’d be ok. But, I hated what I was doing and felt like I had no family or social life. So, truthfully I am still working on balancing it all. I’ve learned I prefer to workout first thing in the morning because it sets the tone for my mood for the rest of the day. I dedicate my morning TO ME FIRST. I make my damn self a priority so that I can be better for my family for the rest of the day. That’s seriously all the balance I need right now.
Get Out of Your Comfort Zone: What have you done in 2018 that is most out of your comfort zone?
ALL OF 2018 has been pushing me out of my comfort zone LOL!
First, I’ve been pushed to be okay not making my “own” money. I’ve been pushed to “lean on a man.” I’ve been pushed to be a “housewife.” Girl, I could go on on just those three things alone. I’ve been pushed beyond my comfort zone because society is so thirsty for women to RISE that I wasn’t sure how to sit my ass down. I’m truly fortunate to have a husband who understands my struggle with this and pressed me to find something I loved to do so I wouldn’t hate him in the long run.
Secondly, growing my little baby (@sheisthemovement_) and teaching classes. Around the new year, I went through a phase where I didn’t want to be defined by titles like “mom” or “wife.” I craved a purpose outside of that because it was consuming me. I’ve always danced — ALWAYS, for fun and professionally. So, again my loving husband pushed me to teach again and it has been beyond rewarding.
For a long time, I knew women struggled with their sexual identities. Confusing SEX and SEXY. Confusing SEXUAL with SEXY. I learned that the major difference and struggle between the two was confidence. Women LACK confidence, so I aim to help women be free in their bodies and find a confidence where they can be sexy without guilt, shame, or giving a flying fuck what anyone thinks about them.
I legit thought no one would come to my classes. But they’re still building and more and more women are feeling free in my classes.
Third, I’m also proud of getting back in shape. I love my kids. Seriously, have you seen them? They’re the cutest damn kids ever! But they didn’t come out easily as they were both C-sections. I’ve lost about 15lbs, but I’ll always have the stretch marks and extra skin. For perspective, I’m 4’8” and my son was over 9lbs! I don’t aim for flat abs, but I do want to feel healthy and happy while loving my body for the amazing things it does.
Shine On: What accomplishment makes you most proud?
I owned a business. It failed (lol), but I owned one! I know if I wanted to do it, I could. It failed not because I wasn’t good or didn’t have the drive or heart. Unfortunately, our partner closed down on us with a 30-day notice. I was young and didn’t know how to get the finances to continue.
What’s a big, hairy audacious goal (BHAG) that you’ve been contemplating and want to speak into existence?
I want to start a blog. I get in these moments where I write some meaningful, heartfelt, transparent, real, and raw shit. I post all the time on social media, but it’s scary. A blog would be like another baby to me. In my marriage, my goal is to earn a $750K yearly income AFTER taxes in the next 5 years. Currently, I do not work and my husband is part-time finishing a real estate course, so this is definitely a BHAG. I’d like to do so with fitness and helping other moms reach their goals.